This past Sunday was Father's Day. It was also my sister's birthday. It was also the day that my mom died in 2000. So many layers of feelings on that day....... so many thoughts pile up on each other.......
When I quiet down for a moment and let my mind relax, I find a more open space underneath all the thoughts. I find that underneath the loss of both my parents is a profound sense of gratitude. I am so incredibly blessed to have been born into a family of deep and abiding love. My parents weren't merely married....and they didn't just love each other.......they were soul mates. I'm sure that was part of what formed me into the woman I am today. I grew up knowing what profound love and acceptance was. I grew up knowing what it felt like to be loved, cherished and safe.
One of the things I've learned is what a profound impact this has had one me...and not just in the obvious ways, but on a physical and mental level. Our brains develop in different ways, depending upon the input they receive as we develop in infancy. So for people who grow up with violence and/or abuse at home - that literally impacts the connections in their brains, which will be different than the connections in my brain.
The good news? Our brains have the ability to literally re-wire themselves. In fact, they do this all the time. Each time you learn something new -- like, how to drive to a new friend's home, for instance -- your brain is making new connections. I mean, you might want to go back again, right? So your brain stores that info - and if you do go back, then your brain begins to hard wire the GPS instructions as to how to get back there again.
So no matter what kind of a home you grew up in... no matter how you were taught to deal with stressful situations.... no matter how your parents modeled dealing with anger or fear.... you have the power to decide how you are going to deal with these things. If your brain was wired in a way that you realize is no longer serving you, then you can change it. And this isn't just some woo-woo thinking. This is based on hard science. I'll be talking about that in future posts...
I've got a video that I've been working on, and will hopefully release by the beginning of next week - hopefully sooner, depending upon how fast I can learn the software!! ;-) This video will give you 3 tricks on how to de-stress in 3 minutes or less....sometimes much less. And when I say "stress", it can cover a LOT of territory! From feeling tense, to having headaches, to insomnia, chronic pain, autoimmune disorders.....you name it. Because our response to the stress in our lives is really at the root of most - if not all - chronic diseases. So if you're interested in getting this video when I complete it, just fill out the form on this page and I'll email you a link to it when it's done!
No matter what you're going through, remember that your brave soul has weathered all the ups and downs of your life.....you are here......alive.....and moving forward. Take a moment to be kind to yourself, because true healing is when we can connect the mind, the heart and the body. There are tools available to help you do that, but you are the only one who can catch the moment and make a choice.