Let's face it: stress is something we deal with on a daily basis - from the kids feeling sick to the boss demanding that we do the impossible, to an upset with a friend/lover/spouse.... We've been through all of them. Yes, money issues, relationship problems, grief, and even the driver who cuts you off because they were too busy on their cell phone to notice -- all of these are obvious stressors - the outer ones.
Then there are the inner stressors that might not be so obvious: We eat crappy food because we don't have time and we're hungry. And then on top of that, we eat that junk food in 4 bites - washed down with an ice cold soda. We stay up late watching TV and don't get adequate rest. And there's our "inner roommate" -- you know the one. (S)he is the one who never ever, ever shuts up - and the subject matter is always the same: You're not good enough. Or smart enough. Or skinny enough. Or young/rich/handsome/pretty enough....etc. All of these are our inner stressors - the ones that aren't obvious from the outside, but wreak havoc with our over all health and wellbeing.
So what to do about it? Well, the first step is often the hardest: you need to become aware of whether your thoughts and/or behaviors are contributing to or detracting from your health and happiness. This is hardest because we often do things on autopilot. So paying attention to our thoughts and behaviors takes us out of our usual patterns and asks us to do something different. At first we may want to beat ourselves up when we realize we've been on autopilot for the last few hours. However, I've never known anyone who has made positive changes in their lives because they've been beaten up - by themselves or by others. So when you notice that you haven't really been present, stop. Take a deep breath, and start to pay attention. Whether you think that what's happening is "good" or "bad", it is what's happening. And time is passing. Pay attention.